About Me

Welcome! My name is Crystal and I love being a woman.  When I think of what a woman is, so many things come to mind. I have yet to find a clear, distinct set of words to describe what a woman is.  "Why is this?", one may ask?  The answer is that there is no true definition of what a woman is.  We are multifaceted beings and no two are created equal.  If ten women were in a room each would feel as such, a woman.  But if one were to look just a little closer, each one has a different set of elements that makes them unique. Take me for an example.

I am a mother of three amazing young men; Nathaniel 19, Joshua 17, and Christian 13.  Motherhood has truly helped develop my elements of womanhood.  Being a mom does not allow one to be complacent. It is the most difficult role anyone can be honored to endure.  It is my greatest of all accomplishments, and I have yet to accomplish all that I am pursuing.   I am also an educator of 10 plus years. I graduated with a Bachelors of Science and also have two Masters degrees;  an MBA in management and an Ed.S in School leadership.  I have been fortunate to travel to some beautiful countries while married.   I have been to some amazing places such as Austria, Spain, Italy, Turkey and the Phillippines.  I learned so much about people and culture.  

When I sit back and think of what has inspired me to pursue this blog it was the lessons that have shaped me in this lifetime journey of self.  I am a woman who has just entered the second half of her life.  ( So yes I am maturing and in my early 40’s) But it seems like just yesterday I had the whole world at my feet and had everything figured out.  At least that is what I thought.  You see I am able to be clear on instances in my life where I seemed paused.  It’s as though I was moving through life, but in neutral.  Like I said before, I am a mother of three great boys.  I had my first son at 23 years of age.  Becoming a mom is something I took quite seriously and I truly immersed myself in the role.  My role became only about my children, I didn’t do too much for myself.  Not only was I a mother, but I became a wife at an early age.  I started my long term relationship while in college,  I was only 19.  My idea of what a relationship meant and looked like was not clearly defined.  We both did the best we could as young individuals, but after 20 years it ended.  (Yes I said it, my marriage ended after 20 years).  Definitely, not my proudest of moments. But, I was able to find myself again in the midst of a very difficult time.  

Most of my years as a woman was on pause.  When I say pause I mean I stopped nurturing myself and the elements that made me who I was.  Looking from the outside in it may seem as though I had it all together... but in reality I was a mess.  It took a long time for me to look within at what truly has made me who I am...  which is a loving woman, one who cares for and supports others.  I am a selfless woman, whose fear of the word "selfish" meant that if I put myself first it would be frowned upon.  I am resilient in a quiet way.  I am not the most aggressive of women but my tenacity is mighty. I am a perfectionist and in my years I am working on understanding why that it is so overrated. I am still looking inward and exploring the wonders of myself.

As women we play truly intricate roles daily that I do believe we take for granted.  Not on purpose, but we don’t celebrate the many elements that we harvest.  

In this blog I will like to share each of those pieces that makes us, US!

Hope you enjoy the journey with me....